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WPCNR DOCTOR WHITE PLAINS. From New York Presbyterian Hospital. December 12, 2005: “The onset of the Holidays represents a series of challenges and expectations, “ explained Jo Anne Sirey, M.D., Clinical Psychologist at New York Presbyterian Hospital (NYPH), Westchester Division. “Many families struggle over how and where to celebrate, while others succumb to the time and monetary demands of gift giving. I think almost everyone feels the pressure of the old tradition of finding that ‘perfect’ gift that is supposed to sum up an entire year’s worth of love and caring in just one day.”
As a result, Dr. Sirey said, the Holidays can sometimes be a disappointing or depressing time. “Some families don’t create festive experiences, and yet some people continue to subject themselves to the same situations year after year, resulting in continued stress, anxiety and depression,” she said. “In those instances, maybe it’s better to give yourself more space and not spend so much time with family.”
Having dealt with many patients experiencing the “pre-Holiday blues,” over the years, Dr. Sirey has developed her own “Top Ten Tips” for reducing stress during the Holiday season.
- Redefine the Holiday season.
Take a step back, and take control of things. Ask yourself what the Holiday means to you, and decide how you want to celebrate.
- Start new traditions.
The Holidays are supposed to be about caring and generosity. Perhaps you can add a new tradition of getting involved with a local charity, homeless shelter, hospital or other organization and make it part of your own Holiday celebration.
- Don’t become a “Holiday perfectionist.”
Because the Holidays are a special time, we can often become angry and disillusioned, when our expectations don’t become reality. Be realistic and try to develop a sense of humor when things don’t turn exactly as you expect.
- Develop a Holiday budget.
Whether you’re throwing a Holiday party or buying gifts, make a budget and stick to it as closely as possible. Set spending limits with friends, family members and co-workers. If money is an issue, discuss making gifts or some other way of showing appreciation. Remember, it’s always the thought that counts.
- Make lists, and check them twice.
Make lists for what needs to be accomplished, what gifts you need to purchase, and which events you will attend. Don’t be afraid of asking family members for help.
6. Keep your normal routine as much as possible.
Attending Holiday parties disrupts our normal eating patterns, while traveling disrupts our sleep. Hosting Holiday parties can be the most stressful of all. Make an effort to keep your regular exercise, sleeping, or eating patterns as much as possible, to avoid disrupting your body’s natural rhythms.
7. Plan your time well.
Plan your time so that you take care of several errands on one trip. You will have more time to spend doing the things that you really want to do.
8. Take are of yourself
The Holiday season is often very draining due to all of those extra activities. It is important for you to take good care of yourself during the holiday season. Eat well, exercise, get plenty of sleep, and take “time out” to enjoy things that you love – a special hobby, reading a good book, going for a walk, etc.
9. Communicate with your family and friends.
Misunderstandings or disagreements can also add to Holiday stress. Address your concerns directly with your family or friends in a gentle, but honest, manner. Encourage them to be open with you as well. Work together to find a solution that is satisfactory to everyone.
10. Learn to say “no” to extra obligations that might stress you out.
The holidays are full of obligations, and you may start feeling overbooked and overwhelmed. By learning to mindfully reflect on how you plan to spend your time, you can better prioritize your obligations and make conscious choices about your time commitments.
“These simple tips are designed to help individuals and families to keep stress levels to a minimum and have a more positive Holiday experience, added Dr. Sirey. “It’s all about empowering people and giving them a new perspective.”











