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Presenters: Leonard G. Townes, Commissioner, Westchester County Dept. of Social Services Blanca Lopez, Assistant Director of Operations for Westchester County Thursday, July 15th 11:00 AM -12:00 PM Register Now |
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Presenters: Leonard G. Townes, Commissioner, Westchester County Dept. of Social Services Blanca Lopez, Assistant Director of Operations for Westchester County Thursday, July 15th 11:00 AM -12:00 PM Register Now |
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WPCNR TRAFFICA. Special to WPCNR from Texas & M Transportation Institute. June 23, 2021:
COVID-19 cut traffic delay to 1991 levels, but not for very long, TTI study shows
America’s worst public health crisis in a century flattened roadway congestion to levels not seen in 30 years. But the respite was short-lived, according to the 2021 Urban Mobility Report from the Texas A&M Transportation Institute.
Study results will be posted online at 12:01 a.m. on Tuesday, June 29, at https://mobility.tamu.edu/umr/.
Last published in 2019, the research provides detailed traffic conditions for 494 urban areas across all states and Puerto Rico. The study was funded by the Texas Department of Transportation and the National Institute for Congestion Reduction.
As noted by this year’s UMR, Americans experienced four distinct traffic years in one during 2020:
As America emerges from the pandemic, 2021 promises to be another traffic year like so many others — worse than most of those that came before.
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Today, Congressman Mondaire Jones (D-NY) released the following statement after Senate Republicans blocked debate on legislation to protect voting rights and save our democracy:
“Our democracy is in crisis. From the armed, white supremacist-led insurrection at the Capitol, to Donald Trump’s baseless attempts to overturn last year’s presidential election, to the racist voter suppression laws being enacted in states across the nation, it becomes clearer every day that the crisis we face is existential.
“Democrats understand this moment and are united in our commitment to protecting our democracy. That is why we passed the For the People Act in the House and why every Senate Democrat voted to begin debate on this legislation today.
“Republicans, on the other hand, no longer believe in government for the people, by the people. They’ve wholeheartedly embraced authoritarianism. It comes as no surprise that they have once again moved in lockstep to block the Senate from even debating the For the People Act.
“Despite Democrats’ repeated efforts to seek a deal, and the fact that more than two-thirds of Americans support this legislation, Republicans in Washington have refused to engage in good faith. If our negotiating partners won’t even come to the table, there is no reason to compromise. We must instead do right by the American people. In this moment, the only path forward is to abolish the filibuster and pass the For the People Act with a simple majority in the Senate.
“My friend Chuck Schumer has said all along that when it comes to protecting voting rights, failure is not an option, and I couldn’t agree more. Today’s vote makes clear that the only way to avoid failure and protect the fundamental rights of all Americans is to abolish the filibuster.”
Today, Congressman Mondaire Jones (D-NY), along with Representatives John Sarbanes (D-MD), Nikema Williams (D-GA), Colin Allred (D-TX), Zoe Lofgren (D-CA), and Senators Raphael Warnock (D-GA), Amy Klobuchar (D-MN), and Jeff Merkley (D-OR) introduced the Preventing Election Subversion Act of 2021, legislation to promote free and fair elections and actively combat the attempts by Republican-run states to subvert elections.
Currently, in states like Georgia, Republicans have been removing non-partisan local election officials, whose responsibilities include selecting precinct locations, establishing voting hours, and certifying elections, posing a threat to the integrity of our elections. The Preventing Election Subversion Act of 2021 will institute new federal safeguards that will help keep the foundations of our democracy strong by insulating state election administration from partisan pressure.
“This year, the right to vote has been under the worst assault since Jim Crow,” said Congressman Mondaire Jones. “Republicans in state houses across the country have gone to outrageous lengths to silence Black and brown voters, introducing over 400 racist voter suppression bills and removing non-partisan election officials who oversee and certify elections. Our bill would protect the independence of local election officials and ensure that future elections are free and fair.”
Specifically, the Preventing Election Subversion Act of 2021 would:
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“GOOD MORNING DENNIS AND TONNY FROM WHITE PLAINS NY USA WHERE IT IS 74 AND SUNNY WPCNR DEGREES.
HOW DO YOU LIKE THE NEW NORMAL DENNIS AND TONNIE? ARE THE GOVERNOR AND THE STATE LEGISLATURE GETTING ALONG? ARE WE ALL GETTING BEYOND COVID? STATE SENATOR SHELLEY MEYER TOLD ME IN AN INTERVIEW FRIDAY AFTER GOVERNOR CUOMO VIRTUALLY SAID “ANYTHING GOES” LAST WEEK. SENATOR MEYER TOLD ME AND I QUOTE:
“IT IS A FANTASTIC DEVELOPMENT THAT 70% OF NEW YORKERS HAVE HAD AT LEAST ONE SHOT AND THAT THERE IS A SENSE OF RELIEF AS WE SIT HERE IN WHITEPLAINS, THROUGHOUT MY DISTRICT YOU CAN SEE PEOPLE VERY HAPPY TO GO BACK OUT TO SHOP WEARING MASKS OR NOT WEARING A MASK THERE’S QUITE A MIX OF THAT. I THINK IT’S A VERY POSITIVE DEVELOPMENT AND I’M HAPPY WE’VE REACHED THE 70% ALTHOUGH, SENATOR MEYER TOLD ME, I’D LIKE US TO GET TO A HIGHER NUMBER, IN ALL OF OUR COMMUNITIES IT IS STILL DISPROPORTUNATE IN ALL ZIP CODES. UNQUOTE.
WHAT’S AHEAD? SENATOR MAYER SAID “I THINK THE GOVERNOR HAS TOO MUCH POWER GIVEN WHERE WE ARE IN THE PANDEMIC AND THINK AS WE EBB I THINK IT’S APPROPRIATE TO LIMIT HIS EMERGENCY POWERS AND ALLOW HIM TO HAVE TRADITIONAL POWERS DURING AN EMERGENCY AND SOME KINDS OF HEALTH THING, BUT BEYOND THAT I THINK PEOPLE ARE READY FOR THE LEGISLATURE TO HAVE MORE OF AN EQUAL POWER AGAINST THE GOVERNOR . I’M IN FAVOR OF THAT.” SO WE WILL SEE WHETHER THE LEGISLATURE WHEN THEY RECONVENE WHENEVER THAT IS IF THIS EFFORT TO HAVE POWER TO OVERRULE THE GOVERNOR TAKES FLIGHT AGAIN.
YOU CAN SEE THE COMPLETE SHELLY MAYER INTERVIEW THURSDAY NIGHT AT8 ON WWW.WPCOMMUNITYMEDIA.ORG OR ON FIOS CHANNEL 45 COUNTYWIDE OR OPTIMUM CH. 76 IN WHITE PLAINS,
MEANWHILE DENNIS, THE PACE OF VACCINATIONS IN WESTCHESTER SHOW INTRIGUING INFORMATION– THE POPULATION OF WESTCHESTER HAS GROWN BY 200,000 PERSONS OVER A MILLION. 556,308 PERSONS ACCORDING TO THE STATE HAVE COMPLETED THEIR SECOND SHOT THAT’S 57% OF OUR ESTIMATE POPULATION OF 967,612 AND 614,700 MORE HAVE RECEIVED ONE SHOT WHICH MEANS 1,171,008 WESTCHESTER RESIDENTS HAVE GOTTEN SHOTS—THAT’S 203,000 MORE WESTCHESTER RESIDENTS THAN THE PREVIOUS CENSUS SHOWED. THIS IS GREAT NEWS FOR THE COUNTY IF THIS IS CORRECT.
WESTCHESTER AT THE PRESENT RATE OF SECOND SHOTS SHOULD BE COMPLETELY VACCINATED BY JULY 31, ASSUMING WESTCHESTER CAN ADMINISTER 15,000 SECOND SHOTS A DAY IT WOULD TAKE 40 DAYS TO VACCINATE 2ND SHOTS IN THE 614,700 NEEDING A SECOND SHOT AS OF MONDAY MORNING.
THE MID-HUDSON REGION THOUGH IS PROCEEDING AT A MUCH SLOWER VACCINATION PACE OF 39,000 2ND VACCINATIONS A WEEK OF NEW PERSONS STILL IN NEED OF A SECOND SHOT. IN THE MID HUDSON REGION AS OF MONDAY, 1,225,367 STILL NEED A SECOND SHOT OF THE MIDHUDSON 2.3 MILLION. OF THAT TOTAL WESTCHESTER HAS 1,074,633 STILL NEEDING A SECOND SHOT,MEANS 1,225,367 IN THE MID HUDSON REGION NEED A SECOND SHOT AT 39,000 SECOND SHOTS A WEEK, THE REGION WILL NOT BE FULLY VACCINATED UNTIL THE FIRST WEEK IN DECEMBER. THIS POSES THE POTENTIAL RISK IN THE 6 OTHER COUNTIES OTHER THAN WESTCHESTER OF A POSSIBLE THIRD WAVE OF INFECTIONS DURING THE SOCIALIZING OF FALL AND THE HOLIDAYS.
REMEMBER OUR 701 WESTCHESTER AVENUE DISPUTE LAST WEEK, DENNIS? THREE MEMBERS OF THE COMMON COUNCIL, NADINE HUNT-ROBINSON, JOHN MARTIN AND VICTORIA PRESSER CAME TO EDUCATION HOUSE LAST WEDNESDAY AND SAT DOWN WITH 5 MEMBERS OF THE COUNCIL OF NEIGHBORHOOD ASSOCIATIONS AND HEARD THEIR CONCERNS ABOUT MAYOR TOM ROACH’S PROPOSED PROCEDURE FOR CREATING A NEW MASTER PLAN FOR THE CITY.
THEY HEARD QUESTIONS FROM MIKE SANCHEZ OF THE NORTH STREET ASSOCIATION – THE DISTRICT WHERE I LIVE AND PHONED IN COMMENTS AND MOSTLY CRITICISMS ABOUT THE DEVELOPMENT NOW BEING DONE MOSTLY THAT THERE WAS TOO MUCH AND THE COUNCIL AND ADMINISTRATION WAS NOT LISTENING TO COMPLAINTS. COUNCILWOMAN NADINE HUNT-ROBINSON DISPUTED THIS POINTING OUT THAT WHEN RESIDENTS IN AFFECTED NEIGHBORHOODS CAME OUT TO PUBLIC HEARINGS, THE COUNCIL LISTENED TO THEM AND DIRECTED DEVELOPERS TO GO BACK AND WORK OUT COMPROMISES WITH THE NEIGHBORS.
JOHN MARTIN, THE 19-YEAR MEMBER OF THE COMMON COUNCIL OBSERVED THAT THE PREVIOUS COMPREHENSIVE PLAN DEVELOPED IN A 2-1/2 YEAR PROCESS ENDING IN 1997 PRODUCED THE CURRENT PLAN ACTUALLY CALLED FOR MORE RESIDENCES TO BE BUILT IN THE DOWNTOWN AND TO PROTECT THE OUTER NEIGHBORHOODS. HE SAID THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE LAST 21 YEARS REFLECTED THIS.
THE CURRENT STALL OF PROJECTS LIKE THE WHITE PLAINS MALL AND THE SECOND HOLE IN THE GROUND THE WHITE PLAINS PAVILLION FORMERSITE AND THE STOPPING OF CONSTRUCTION ON THE MITCHELL ON MAMARONECK AVENUE DUE TO THE BUILDING CONTRACTOR HAVING FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES ARE REFLECTIVE OF THE PANDEMIC EFFECTS ACCORDING TO THE CITY.
COMMON COUNCIL MEMBERS IN A VERY BOLD GESTURE SHOWED UP AND DEFENDED THE MAYOR’S PRESENT PLAN TO REVISE THE COMPREHENSIVE PLAN THAT WILL APPOINT A STEERING COMMITTEE VERY SIMILAR TO THE STEERING COMMITTEE THAT EXPLORED TOPICS OF CONCERN 25 YEARS AGO. THE PROCESS IS EXPECTED TO GO OUT 4 YEARS AND POSSIBLY 6 BEFORE THE NEW PLAN IS IMPLEMENTED WHATEVER THAT MEANS.
THE CONCERN I HAVE IS HOW CAN YOU PLAN WHEN YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT EFFECTS OF THE COMPLETED PROJECTS NOW APPROVED BUT NOT PROGRESSING WILL HAVE ON WHAT YOU THINK MIGHT BE APPROPRIATE FOR ANY VISION OF THE FUTURE
SPEAKING OF DEVELOPMENT, MARTIN GINSBURG THE DEVELOPER SHOWED OFF HIS NEW RENOVATION OF ONE MARTINE AVENUE LAST THURSDA AND THE APARTMENTS ARE UNIQUELY SPECTACULAR WITH NO APARTMENTS THE SAME ON ANY FLOOR, ROOMY LIVING AREAS SPECTACULAR SPREAD FROM NARROW ENTRANCE CORRIDERS OPENING TO BEDROOMS AND WIDE ANGLE LIVING AREAS WELL WORTH A LOOK.
THE SCHOOL DISTRICT POSTPONED THE MIDDLE SCHOOL GRADUATION SCHEDULED FOR TONIGHT AND MOVED IT TO THURSDAY…THE HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION IS SUPPOSED TAKE PLACE WEDNESDAY EVENING AT 5.
IT’S BEEN A PLEASURE!
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Due to the probability of rain for tomorrow, Tuesday, June 22, The Highlands Middle School Moving Up Ceremony is being moved to Thursday, June 24, at 5:00 PM
at Loucks Field at the High School. All other details remain the same.
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WPCNR COUNTY CLARION-LEDGER. From Westchester County Deputy Chair of Board of Legislators Catherine Parker, District 7 June 21, 2021:
| Governor Andrew M. Cuomo announced that Tuesday COVID-19 restrictions are lifted immediately as 70 percent of New Yorkers aged 18 or older have received the first dose of their COVID-19 vaccination series. The State’s health guidance and New York Forward industry specific guidelines—including social gathering limits, capacity restrictions, social distancing, cleaning and disinfection, health screening, and contact information for tracing—are now optional for retail, food services, offices, gyms and fitness centers, amusement and family entertainment, hair salons, barber shops and personal care services, among other commercial settings. Unvaccinated individuals continue to be responsible for wearing masks, in accordance with federal CDC guidance. Consistent with the State’s implementation of the recent CDC guidance, masks are still required for unvaccinated individuals. Further, the State’s health guidelines continue to be in effect for large-scale indoor event venues, pre-K to grade 12 schools, public transit, homeless shelters, correctional facilities, nursing homes, and health care settings per CDC guidelines. The State’s COVID restrictions remain in effect for large-scale indoor event venues—now defined as indoor venues that hold more than 5,000 attendees. Consistent with the State’s implementation of the CDC guidelines, proof of vaccination can be used to eliminate social distancing and remove masks for fully vaccinated individuals. Unvaccinated or unknown vaccination status individuals who are over the age of four must continue to present proof of a recent negative diagnostic COVID-19 test result and wear masks within the venue. However, social distancing can be reduced or eliminated between tested attendees, allowing venues to reach 100 percent capacity in all sections.As of Tuesday, over 70 percent of adult New Yorkers have received at least the first dose of the COVID-19 vaccine and the rate of new COVID-19 cases has plummeted to the lowest levels in the nation. Given New York’s progress and the diminished risk of COVID-19 within the community, the State is lifting COVID-19 restrictions effective immediately, except for the mask requirement for unvaccinated individuals and in certain settings (e.g., large-scale indoor event venues, pre-K to grade 12 schools, public transit, homeless shelters, correctional facilities, nursing homes and health care settings per CDC guidance). While New York Forward industry reopening guidance is no longer mandatory for most industries, these documents will be archived and made available as a public reference. With the removal of the State’s minimum standard for reopening, businesses are free to choose to lift all or some restrictions, continue to adhere to the State’s archived guidance, or implement other health precautions for their employees and patrons. Businesses are also authorized to require masks and six feet of social distancing for employees and patrons within their establishments, regardless of vaccination status. Any mask requirements that businesses choose to implement must adhere to applicable federal and state laws and regulations, such as the Americans with Disabilities Act. For more information visit: https://www.governor.ny.gov/news/governor-cuomo-announces-covid-19-restrictions-lifted-70-adult-new-yorkers-have-received-firstPlease forward this E-News to family and friends who may be interested in this information. en Español El Gobernador Levanta la Mayoría de las Restricciones de COVID-19El gobernador Andrew M. Cuomo anunció el martes que las restricciones de COVID-19 se levantarán de inmediato, ya que el 70 por ciento de los neoyorquinos de 18 años o más han recibido la primera dosis de su serie de vacunación COVID-19.Las pautas de salud del estado y las pautas específicas de la industria de New York Forward, incluidos los límites de reuniones sociales, las restricciones de capacidad, el distanciamiento social, la limpieza y desinfección, los exámenes de salud y la información de contacto para el rastreo, ahora son opcionales para las tiendas, los servicios de alimentos, las oficinas, los gimnasios y centros físicos, diversión y entretenimiento familiar, peluquerías, barberías y servicios de cuidado personal, entre otros ambientes comerciales.Las personas no vacunadas continúan siendo responsables de usar máscaras, de acuerdo con las pautas federales de los Centros de Control y Prevención de Enfermedades (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, CDC). De acuerdo con la implementación del estado de la guía reciente de los CDC, aún se requieren máscaras para las personas no vacunadas. Además, las pautas de salud del estado continúan vigentes para lugares de eventos en interiores a gran escala, escuelas de preescolar a grado 12, transporte público, refugios para personas sin hogar, instalaciones correccionales, hogares de ancianos y entornos de atención médica según las pautas de los CDC.Las restricciones estatales de COVID siguen vigentes para los lugares de eventos bajo techo a gran escala, ahora definidos como lugares bajo techo con capacidad para más de 5,000 asistentes. De acuerdo con la implementación estatal de las pautas de los CDC, la prueba de vacunación se puede usar para eliminar el distanciamiento social y quitar las máscaras a las personas completamente vacunadas. Las personas con estado de vacunación no vacunadas o desconocidas que sean mayores de cuatro años deben continuar presentando prueba de un resultado de prueba COVID-19 de diagnóstico negativo reciente y usar máscaras dentro del lugar. Sin embargo, el distanciamiento social se puede reducir o eliminar entre los asistentes evaluados, lo que permite que los lugares alcancen el 100 por ciento de su capacidad en todas las secciones.Desde el martes, más del 70 por ciento de los neoyorquinos adultos han recibido al menos la primera dosis de la vacuna COVID-19 y la tasa de nuevos casos de COVID-19 se ha desplomado a los niveles más bajos del país. Dado el progreso de Nueva York y la disminución del riesgo de COVID-19 dentro de la comunidad, el estado está levantando las restricciones de COVID-19 con efecto inmediato, excepto por el requisito de mascarilla para personas no vacunadas y en ciertos entornos (por ejemplo, lugares de eventos bajo techo a gran escala, pre -Escuelas de K a 12 ° grado, transporte público, refugios para personas sin hogar, instalaciones correccionales, hogares de ancianos y entornos de atención médica según la guía de los CDC) Si bien la guía de reapertura de la industria New York Forward ya no es obligatoria para la mayoría de las industrias, estos documentos se archivarán y estarán disponibles como referencia pública.Con la eliminación del estándar mínimo del estado para la reapertura, las empresas tienen la libertad de elegir levantar todas o algunas restricciones, continuar adhiriéndose a la guía archivada del estado o implementar otras precauciones de salud para sus empleados y clientes. Las empresas también están autorizadas a exigir máscaras y seis pies de distanciamiento social para los empleados y clientes dentro de sus establecimientos, independientemente del estado de vacunación. Cualquier requisito de máscara que las empresas decidan implementar debe cumplir con las leyes y regulaciones federales y estatales aplicables, como la Ley de Estadounidenses con Discapacidades (Americans with Disabilities Act).Para obtener más información, visite: https://www.governor.ny.gov/news/governor-cuomo-announces-covid-19-restrictions-lifted-70-adult-new-yorkers-have-received-firstEnvíe estas noticias electrónicas a familiares y amigos que puedan estar interesados en esta información. |
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![]() ![]() Listen to live music this summer at Croton Point Park in Croton-on-Hudson and Kensico Dam Plaza in Valhalla! Thursday, July 1 Songs in the Attic: Billy Joel Tribute Band at Kensico Dam Plaza, Valhalla Tuesday, July 13 Back to the Garden at Croton Point Park, Croton-on-Hudson Tuesday, July 20 The Nerds at Kensico Dam Plaza, Valhalla Thursday, August 26 Hudson Horns at Kensico Dam Plaza, Valhalla TBD High Noon at Kensico Dam Plaza, Valhalla Concerts are 7 p.m. to 9 p.m.; gates open at 6 p.m. Tickets: $10 per person (NEW) – tickets will not be sold at the event General Admission style seating Tickets required for ages 5+ (4 years old and under – Free) Gates open at 6 p.m. (free parking).All attendees must show proof of valid ticket. Masks are optional No animals permitted at the concerts unless they are leashed service/support animals.We encourage our guests to bring chairs, blankets, food and beverages (alcohol only for those 21+). No refunds will be given unless a performance is cancelled in its entirety with no replacement performance scheduled.Limited tickets available. Tickets are NON-TRANSFERRABLE Please do not bring: Grills | Pets (other than service/support animals) Tents | Large Umbrellas Canopies of any size | Weapons or Firearms Fireworks or Explosives | Drones The Summer Concert Series seating and ticketing protocols have changed due to the new guidance from New York State. Tickets can now be purchased individually at $10 per ticket and seating will be general admission. |
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WPCNR THE SUNDAY BAILEY. By John F. Bailey. Republished from The CitizeNetReporter of June 17, 2007:
This week celebrates a great American Father.
Charles F. Bailey.
He is my father. He was born November 17, 1918.
My father gave me four pieces of advice in life: Always drive an air-conditioned car. Always centrally air-condition your home. Stay out of court.
And, oh yes, don’t sit in traffic. Take the next exit and wing it.
Always take the service road on the Long Island Expressway. (He would have loved a Garmin.)
In retrospect, his advice has served me well. I am always comfortable. I sit out traffic delays in comfort. I have not made lawyers rich.

He was not an emotional man. He was a banker and always wore suits to work. I have fond memories of going to meet him in the days of steam engines in Pleasantville – when train tracks were at grade with Manville Road at the old stone station.
I was most impressed as a young child by how he always smelled of coal cinders when he got off the train – like commuter’s cologne.
Sadly on today’s electric trains you do not get that. And you always heard those steam engines coming. Chuffing doing serious work.
You could see them: Clouds of very busy, inspiring industrious black smoke streaming at the horizon down the line. He’d get off the train.
My mother would move over and he’d drive the old Hudson Hornet home. He always spoke quietly. Never raised his voice. Drank scotch and soda in the winter. “G & T’s” in the summer, martinis with George and Howard two close friends. He smoked Chesterfield, Philip Morris, Marlboros, Kents with the micronite filter.
He set up a Lionel train set in our basement – perhaps our unspoken connection. When I was sent in by train for the first time to meet him at the office during Christmas time, He’d have his secretary Margie greet me at Grand Central Terminal which still is a very big and scary place to me .
He would take me to lunch at Jack’s Monte Rosa Restaurant on 49th Street – which I thought was a very great place. Hub bub, tinkling glasses. Sharp-dressed waitersin white jackets black bow ties.
When I first went to it with him, I was a little disappointed that it was not more glamorous but I was really impressed that Jack the owner greeted him by name. I thought that was great that my Dad was greeted with respect.
When I first started working in Washington, D.C. in 1968 I ate regularly at a restaurant below the television station WMAL-TV where I worked, it was called Marty’s Italian Village. Marty, the owner (who looked like Humphrey Bogart, the only thing missing was the white sport coat) started calling me when I came in around 7 PM, ‘Hi John, how are you?” People would look at me. They thought I was big. I liked that. Feeling big in my small world.
When my father came to visit me in Washington where I worked. I took him around town. I told him when he got off the plane. “Hi, Dad, welcome to my town.” I wanted to impress him. We’re always trying to impress our fathers. At least I was.
Another Father time was when my Dad came out for Dad’s Day at college. I mean this was a big thing to me. He watched me do play-by-play of a football game from atop the press box in 15 degree weather. It was cold. But he watched. Acted impressed. He hated cold weather. No watching from the warm press box for him.
Another time he impressed was when I lost a job where I was working at the television station that I was being considered for. I told him how unfair it was, he put things in perspective:
“Puggy, he said, “The film manager wasn’t going to put you in as his Assistant if you were going to be bucking him all the time.” It put things in perspective. No false sentiment. No making me feel better, he was tough enough to teach by being realistic while telling me not to feel sorry for myself.
Then later in my career, I was fired out of a job completely blindsided. He again intervened, saying to me he thought what the agency head had done was a terrible thing. I needed that at the time.
He also, in a very supportive move, told me if I could make $1,000 a night writing a free lance direct mail package, I should keep trying to do that.
Dads are there to say the right things to you at the right time. Sometimes it is not always the right thing, but they try. Often, if you’re lucky, as I was, they say the right thing. Always — when you really really need it. Not the wrong thing.
With my father, who was not really my father, since I was an adopted child, it was never all about him, it was all about you. Making me better, even when it hurt him to say things that were the truth.
When I bought my first house in White Plains. He never criticized the house. But when I sold it, he complimented me, “I think it’s great how you came out of it (the crummy first house).” He was a personal trainer.
The good ones train you to run a race. If you stumble, no one hurts more than they do. When you succeed, no one is prouder. The good ones push you in front of the cameras, they say interview her or him. They did it.
They know what you should do, but they can’t tell you, because you won’t do it if you’re a kid.
But the more subtler of them tell you any way in hopes it will sink into the rebellious offspring mind. My dad was subtle.
Another fond memory: My father took me camping once at a friend’s cabin in Pennsylvania. Funny thing was there was such a great comic collection we wound up sleeping in sleeping bags on the porch of the cabin. That was funny.
Another time when I was being threatened in college over a position at the radio station, I asked him if I should just abdicate and assign a play-by-play position to the person who was being forced on me. He advised me to “stick to your guns,” so I reported the threat to the Dean.
The position was compromised, but I was never threatened again. He never shared my love for baseball and sports. In fact he never played catch with me all that well or that often.
I mean I could have made the big leagues (pipe dream) if he played catch with me more. But that’s a small criticism. I wish I had more of his financial acumen. But I do not.
As you grow into your 30s and 40s, little things they say to you you begin to understand. My father never struck me, but always disciplined me with quiet words. I have not always been that way as a parent myself, being somewhat volatile. I wish I had his even temperament. He always asked me to take care of my mother. And the only time he really got mad at me was when I had made my mother upset with me.
He was a little like Humphrey Bogart in movie roles in the way he disciplined, I remember he would say admonitions quietly. Such as when I got an F in an English course at college. He told me, that was the last F I would get at Ohio Wesleyan, because the next one he would stop paying my tuition.
That had an effect. And that was when tuition was only $3,000 a year.
I have taken to, after my children have grown, telling them always “Be careful,” “Don’t do anything stupid because someone suggests it,” “Do not go anywhere alone without telling people where you are going,” “Don’t lose your temper,” “Don’t tailgate.” In hopes that when I am not with them, they will remember it when they need it.
I think of him every day of my life. I become more like him every day. He is always lingering in the background of my thoughts. I do not know what he would think of what I am doing now. But, he’d say — “If that’s what you want to do. Do it.” He also would say, “You have to make yourself happy.”
I also think, even today of what advice (laconic as always) he’d give me in a situation. I wish I could discuss property taxes with him. Banking today and how it has become a predator system.
I especially have to salute him, because I am an adopted child.
That alone makes me appreciate his love and acceptance with a sense of awe to this day. He loved me like his own son. Because in his mind, I was. He took responsibility.
You never outgrow your need for Dad. The good ones are immortal, alive and with you in your head when you need them. They are ghosts that comfort always.
Immortality is leaving a good memory of you with the ones who knew you.
Because what you give them, lives on for generations.
Your children will talk of you because of the good things and behaviors you gave them when you needed them and you never lose those tools Dad gave you.
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